Lying
Due to Fear of Punishment
Hidden Resilience:
Determination & Creativity
Is learned when:
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Reality is not allowed to be real.
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The truth is what you need it to be to get the job done.
The drive behind the behavior:
Fear of punishment.
Steps to take to meet those needs:
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Get to know your beliefs about lying.
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Underneath our response to being lied to is an implicit belief… that truth is something that is either earned or owed.
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Know which belief you hold or when someone lies to you, that belief will drive your actions without you knowing it.
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Help people identify safe people to ask.
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Develop with them the words to tell what really happened.
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Practice saying what happened with them.
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Then, highlight that they are still safe.
(NOTE: This process often needs to be repeated 6 or 7 times so that a new neuropathway for it being safe enough to tell the truth can begin to grow.)